Yes, I have mostly agree with RumplesGirl. It was morally gray. The only problem I have is that he used a lie “to manipulate” Snow, which I think is not completely the right way.
I think my biggest problem is that Charming couldn’t explain why Snow has to fight back and put the dwarfs, Snow White and the people they care about in danger.
He never said they should do it because Snow might regret it or because they had to protect the people in the kingdom from the Evil Queen. I really was thinking the reason why he thought it is the rigth thing to fight back because he was feeling it is the right thing to do.
He was right at the end. But he used a lie to manipulate the person he loved most. Which is not comparable with a simple lie to protect someone or himself.
So I would say it is at least a morally gray thing.
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