That really is! It seems to me that the things that Hook has in common with Emma are her less savory traits (the outsider angst), but Neal has the things that make her admirable or sympathetic (the sense of goodness and caring, despite having a hard life).
Ranisha, I loved those lines you found!
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“If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see?” -- Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking-Glass