Truidia: Snow is not selfish and self-centered just because she does on occasion think of herself or David! As others already covered a lot of why that is, I’ll just skip to the one most people agree with you on, which is Snow’s cave confession. I went into it on the Regret thread, but again, this is a secret wish of Snow, and while hard to hear for Emma. it was not all bad for Emma either. Emma relates to Snow as a friend, more than a mother, so she has sympathy and she has empathy as she might have felt a bit the same over Henry ‘s early days. Third, a sibling would mean another person to love her and another person to love for her, so I don’t think it was just opening a raw gaping wound–though I think that’s how she felt after Charming’s confession that he was not saved after all.
Slurpeez : I agree with that too, that Snow did the right thing telling Emma about Neal. All of the emotional stuff you mention that invites various opinions and debate about what Emma wanted aside, bottom line, Neal knew the way off the island.
If it had been Archie in that box with a way off, or even without one for that matter, no one would have second guessed going to get him. They’d have had an easier time without Henry than with him and with Pan chasing him, so if they were going to go rescue, it would have to be a side mission.
“If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see?” -- Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking-Glass