Okay, so I keep reading all this stuff saying how it was so terrible that Hook told Emma that he was “glad” she got her heart broken because it means it still works. I don’t understand this. I must be too old and have too much life experience – oh, and be too busy raising a child whom I realize needs to experience things like disappointment, pain, and unhappiness at some points during his life in order to fully appreciate the full life experience – to understand this line of thinking.
Isn’t this EXACTLY what Snow was talking about in 3×12 when she told Regina she couldn’t bury her heart? That the ONLY way she was going to learn to find happiness again was to keep her heart – even though it was currently causing her nothing but pain? Because if she buried her heart not only would she never feel heartache again but she would never feel love or happiness again either. And everyone thought THAT moment was such a SWEET BONDING moment between Regina and Snow. But the same moment between Hook and Emma is NOT special?? I’m sorry but it has been the most intimate moment between the two them on the show so far, including the kiss.
And did no one catch what Hook said first?? “Don’t take this the wrong way . . .” In other words -I’m not happy you are in pain, I am happy that your ability to FEEL pain is proof that your heart works. Let’s face it, even Emma wasn’t sure her heart had the ability to love in the way it needed to in order to be in a relationship prior to her year of false memories. Hook is INCREDIBLY insightful when it comes to Emma – in fact he’s the only person that can render her speechless. And he knows EXACTLY what she needs to hear regardless of whether she wants to hear it or not (he knows her better than she knows herself). She needed to know that the monkey man is NOT another reason to throw her walls back up again (well, primarily because he was a monkey – so he just wasn’t even worth it, but I digress) because what happened with that situation, though painful, was actually GOOD for her. And because Hook loves Emma, yes – he is GLAD that she has experienced something that should cause her to recognize that she has the ability to have an actual loving relationship. And no, it is NOT just because he WANTS her, it’s because he CARES about her.
It’s just like with my son – I am quite sure he is going to have some painful romantic relationships over the course of his life before he finds “the one.” Do I want him to be in pain? No. Do I recognize that pain is a way we LEARN in life? YES!! And if having some painful relationships ends up teaching him some things that he needs to learn about himself and the kind of woman he DOESN’T want to end up with so that he can find his own true love – bring on the pain!!!