I’m not saying that Rumple doesn’t know how to love–just that there IS a selfish element to how he expresses that love, along with the fear that makes him push it away. He did overcome his selfishness when he sacrificed his life to defeat Pan, showing that he’s capable of true love (which I’m still defining as sacrificial in the show’s portrayal), but the streak of possessiveness that he has with the people he loves shows that most of the time he’s failed.
I dunno. It’s a tricky thing because he IS a complex character who has been through a LOT and bent to suit the needs of plot in places. And omission has hurt his portrayal as well; why cut any scene that showed his loving side during 4A?
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