wow I just read through an amazing discussion about Milah!!!!!
here’s copy of some of it
0ceanofdarkness replied to your post:It amazes me that someone can simply say “When you…
I presume this is about the Rumple made Milah unhappy therefore it was ok for her to crush his soul argument? If she was so freaking unhappy that her husband tried to come home to her and his son instead of dying, she could have just left.
Yep that’s the one. Basically it was “Well, if we’re going to take a look at her abuses, we need to consider the fact that he wouldn’t change his life to suit her needs.” Just NO. So he didn’t want to leave that town. There’s nothing wrong with that! But instead of saying to him “Well, I think it’s time we split up because I want something else” and leaving, she spends years abusing him and then finally leaves him after convincing him she’s been kidnapped by pirates.
I just find it unbelievable that people think that it’s ok to blame the victim for the abuses he’s gone through.
Well, the last time he tried to leave and start over somewhere else, I recall it didn’t work out so well. Obviously, he told Milah about his father because they discussed him. One presumes she might have had some insight into why he might have been reluctant to go somewhere new if she could manage to think about anything but herself for 2 seconds… not that she seemed to have any sympathy about that.
Bae certainly wasn’t keeping her there, since she couldn’t be bothered to care for him and preferred to spend her time drinking at the local tavern… she left him easily enough to run off with Hook.
Rumple didn’t want to leave his son fatherless because of his own childhood trauma, so he panicked and made a decision that was not well thought out and was ridiculed for it. All Milah could see was that he made her an object of ridicule too instead of an honored war widow. She gave no thought to how desperate he must have felt or how much he must have loved her and their son to endure that just to get home to his family.
She was a selfish, cruel woman who wanted to punish Rumple for what she saw as his shortcomings. If she felt trapped it was likely because she didn’t want to leave without a better prospect to go to. If she’d left on her own, she might have had to take responsibility for her own unhappiness… and we can’t have that!
Spot on! I always love your analyses of things. I forgot that Milah knew at least SOMETHING about his father. So she surely must have known that “starting over” for them meant being abandoned.
I really think you’re right on her reasons for not leaving. It wasn’t because she had any ounce of caring for him. She enjoyed punishing him and didn’t want to set off on her own until something better came along. Hook was there for…what? One night. And she left the next morning with him. She was just waiting around for someone to leave with. Which is sad not only for Rumple, but for Bae, who she abandoned without any regrets.
To me Milah was even more heartless than Cora, because she knew the Rumple who was an insecure, abandoned child who tried so hard to put all of that behind him and build a good life with her… and she crushed him out of pure selfish spite, she made everything his father let him believe about himself true.
People who defend her and blame Rumple for how she treated him just make me want to scream and break things, because
yeah, nothing abusive here at all…
He freaking hobbled himself to come home to his family, to make sure his son knew the love of a father and this is the welcome his poor put upon in no way abusive wife gives him…
no venom there, no disgust written like a neon sign across her face… and it’s not like she told him to do her a favor and die or anything…
and here she is so scared of the Dark One and his murderous rage that she cowers and begs him not to hurt her while totally not spewing venom up in his face…
no evidence of any form of hurt and shock at all in his eyes because of course he feels no betrayal at all that he suffered years of abuse at the hands of a woman he thought loved him until he proved himself unworthy…
no kind of trigger there that might have caused him to act rashly when he actually found himself empowered… nothing but sweetness and light and rainbows from a sad, unhappy spouse who totally had her life ruined by him, and didn’t let him believe she’d been raped and possibly killed by pirates because he wasn’t enough of a man to save her