I have no issue being seen as Anti-Hook. I’m talking about the forum. The forum isn’t like some official place of anti-hookness. The people who remain here just aren’t aboard that shit because everyone else left. In other words, don’t let our views become the face of the forum. They aren’t. The other CS fans and Hooks fans are just as welcome her as SwanQueen or DavyJones shippers.
Yes, but the forum reflects the views of its majority, whether officially or not, and will be perceived as such. I never said CS fans or any others shouldn’t be allowed here. I’m just taking issue with the comments that slap derogatory labels onto individuals with certain opinions, brand this forum as “hateful” and demand apologies from others.
I also question the need for “balance”, which several people have brought up. People are more than welcome to state their views on threads they find interesting, but there is no reason why any one topic should be discussed, or discussed in a way that is NOT one-sided. Sure, it would stimulate discussion if multiple POV’s were expressed. I just don’t like the insinuation that any relationship or any thread is entitled to anything. That’s my main point.
In my professional life I actually work in gender issues and addressing social norms around toxic masculinities. I manage research projects on combatting gender based violence, especially intimate partner violence. These are issues I care deeply about and I personally don’t interpret the CS relationship as a toxic relationship. Of course there are things you can find to be problematic, every ship on the show is problematic. I am not saying that the way you interpret their relationship is wrong, it’s just different from how I interpret it.
See, this sort of thing would be interesting to discuss for sure. I don’t mind that you and I have different opinions. I just don’t like the labels and name calling that’s been going on around here – started by others, not you. I’d enjoy discussing these things with you, but I’ll also stand behind my opinions and most importantly, I will not be silenced and I will not apologise for my viewpoints.
As for things being personal, you do have my empathy. I had things in this show that felt personal for sure, and I suspect others have too. You may feel let down by the forums and the CS negativity, but some of us feel betrayed by the show itself.