After doing some more thinking on the subject I have come to realize just how selfless and fatherly Rumple was with his magic (At least in the early years) Then his father was.
Think about it hard. Malcolm/Pan (I think I’ll just say Pan) gave up his own son to be youthful and gain his power. Meaning everytime he used magic he was doing it for himself whether it was something really big like a long drawn out plan or something simple like eating some cake.
Rumple on the other hand from the moment he got his Dark One powers did everything he could to make Bae happy. Heck the reason he got those powers was to protect Bae in the first place. Also as time went on even though Rumple became for monstrous with his powers towards others he never did towards Bae. Rumple always wanted to use his magic to make Bae happy heck he even wanted to build him a castle and give him a golden crown. (Rumples dad never did that for him). Even though Bae never wanted those things…But its the thought that counts!
So ergo Rumple despite becoming a bit crazy later, was always was more noble with his powers towards his own son then Pan ever was towards Rumple. Because Rumple in the end really just wanted to use his magic to make Bae happy. (Even though the results didn’t work out)