Zelena saying that saving people is what heroes do even over their family was ridiculous. There doesn’t need to be a choice there. Call the guy, say you have a family emergency, if he loves her and she loves him, then they can wait a bit. They could also read him in on what is going on.
The writers idea of self sacrifice for the people, the way they talk about it just doesn’t make sense. A character can be a hero and do the right thing and still take care of their family and still have real romantic love and a happy life.