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I’m sorry but I just have to LOL at Henry “shipping.” Seriously?? What is the world coming to?
My son is the exact same age as Henry – 12 going on 13. Sure, he is interested in girls and finds them attractive. My son probably has a whole lot more opportunities to have female friends – he’s a ballet dancer, he is literally SURROUNDED by girls, gets to have his hands ALL OVER THEM in pas de deux class which he obviously is NOT going to complain about (but is a great lesson in self control and respect for women). There are some girls he “likes” and some he is just friends with. But a “relationship” – um, no. Dating, absolutely not!!
Besides the fact that we would not allow that kind of “relationship” at his age, it isn’t something that he is interested in – in our case, because of a combination of how he has been raised and also because he is too busy doing other things to want to deal with “that” right now.
With that said, he does have some female friends that he has known longer than others who he is much closer to than others who, at this point, call each other “brother” and “sister” because they are such good friends. I could see any of those relationships turning into something more – LATER when they are BOTH older and more mature and ready to handle a “relationship.”
I know I’m old but to me the defination and purpose of a “relationship” and “dating” had drastically changed over the last several years. It used to be that you dated someone to see if they were potential marriage material and entered into a relationship with someone when you believed you had found your potential marriage partner and wanted to seriously exlore that further (and I’m actually being somewhat liberal with the process here – many people are even stricter about it) before you became formally engaged. If you still follow this tradition, dating and having a relationship at 12 going on 13 doesn’t make any sense.
Now people date just to “get together” and enter into relationships so they have a steady person to date – knowing they will eventually break up and then date other people. But even if you subscribe to this definition, why would a 12 year need to date and have a relationship. Good grief, they are way too young to be engaging in behaviors that are typically associated with dating and relationships – or if they are not actually happening, the TEMPTATIONS that are associated with dating and relationships.
My 12 year old? We have ALWAYS been close but he is currently going through a “dad” phase – is preferring to talk to my husband and wants to hang out with him instead of me. Coincidentally my husband is my son’s stepfather who is currently in the process of adopting him as his biological father who has hardly had any involvement in his life finally gave up his parental rights.
So personally I would prefer to see Henry getting some FRIENDS – both male and female, just like in normal life. I would like to see him continue to bond with both Emma and his newly changed mother, Regina as well as both their boyfriends (I’m sure OQ will work out) as a boy Henry’s age CRAVES adult male companionship and advice. Sure, let the kid have a crush on one of the girls as a small sub-plot in one episode to see him getting male advice on how to “woo” and “court” a lady from the men of the EF in his life – that would be cute and sweet and some nice bonding moments.
But my preference would be to not start turning Once Upon a Time into CW or ABC Family show where we have kids doing things they aren’t ready to be doing WAY too soon and glorifying it. Let Henry be a kid his age even if he is a MATURE kid his age. Please.
Mommy rant complete.
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RGF, I spy with my little eye a wedding ring (actually, two wedding rings)!Yay!!! Sexiest thing EVER!!! Two hot celebrity daddies who aren’t afraid to show off the symbol of their commitment and loyalty to their wives!
I wonder if Ginny and Helen were having a mommy night with the babies???
@call me Lola I agree about Colin being lucky to have Helen. She seems incredibly sweet and very supportive of him. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to be married to a man that people “fangirl” over. From things he has said in interviews it seems like he tries to shelter her from it as much as possible and he seems like the type that is able to leave work at work when he gets home (ex. he isn’t a Twitter hog). But I tend to be kind of a naturally jealous person by nature, it’s hard for me when my husband is working on a big project at work and is away on business a lot working with other women even when I KNOW nothing is going on, so I know I would struggle with having women out there sending flirty tweets to my husband, hanging out on a set all day to get a picture with him, interrupting our vacation for a photo or autograph, criticizing him because they don’t like something about his character – not to mention having my husband make out with some other woman as part of his job.
I think being a celebrity can really put a lot of stress on any marriage but they have been together for so long and seem so openly loyal and dedicated to each other that I hope their marriage is able to withstand any of the celebrity “junk.”
Oh, good!! Thanks for making feel better about that!!
I was really worried that he was being pressured to comply with “hotness” expectations now that he has become so much better known.
On a side note, someone on tumblr did a really cute compilation of pictures of him and Helen together that I saw the othe day – it was really sweet. You always see tumblr reblogs of him in character with Emma or as himself with JMo, I thought it was cute to see that someone put together a bunch of pictures of him with his REAL True Love.
The picture of Colin without his ring was on the Once Storybrooke twitter account but I don’t know where it originated from. It looks fairly recent. Sorry I can’t seem to post or link it.
It makes me wonder if some publicity person is making him take off his ring for pictures now or if they airbrushed it out. I know that a lot of hot married actors are told not to wear wedding rings in publicity photos because it ruins the “fantasy” factor. Personally I find Colin much hotter BECAUSE he wears his wedding ring all the time and always talks about his wife in interviews. So the fact that his ring was missing was the FIRST detail I noticed. It’s probably because I’m older and married that I find his loyalty to his wife so sexy. Maybe if I was younger and single I would understand the “darn, he’s taken angle.” I have, however, thought that Helen is a VERY lucky woman.
Hi all! I have been absent for quite awhile. We are busy with our house on the market and getting ready for our move to a Tampa. I hate the moving process but I am thrilled to no longer have to deal with snow and ice!!
I haven’t been on tumblr either until yesterday and can I just say – people need serious therapy. If people haven’t found a way to accept that Neal is dead by now, they need help. I can’t believe people are still posting, and angry, and sending hate mail about that issue. He’s a flippin’ fictional character – get over it already.
Next, why would someone even feel the need to ask if Ginny had lost her baby weight??? Seriously?? I am a normal everyday nobody and I felt like a giant whale when I was pregnant. I was still a giant whale after my son was born. I felt horrible about my body when it took me longer to lose weight than I expected and I didn’t have millions of people critiquing my figure on TV. All women gain different amounts of weight, carry the weight they gain in different areas of their body, and lose weight at completely different rates. But to even expect or wonder if she has lost her baby weight by this point is completely ridiculous to me. The baby wasn’t born that long ago, give the poor woman a chance to be a MOM to her BABY instead of spending all day at bootcamp, spinning classes, and anti-gravity yoga for goodness sake!
Also, I hope I am just being paranoid but did anyone notice in the publicity photo that was released of Colin today (the one with him walking the dog) he isn’t wearing his wedding ring? I noticed it because one thing I love about Colin is that in every picture I have EVER seen of him (even his professional stills) he is ALWAYS wearing his wedding ring. First, I hope everything I okay with him and Helen (I am almost positive it would be, little Evan isn’t even a year old), but second I hope no one is making him remove his ring for photos now. I like the message he sends when he wears it.
I guess I don’t see Emma NOT interacting with Henry for an episode or two as that big of a deal. Probably because my son is the same age as Henry and I know what 12 year old boys are like – you really don’t spend a lot of time staring lovingly at each other. You are happy when you get a grunt and a short but informative sentence of how their day is going. I love my son to pieces but at his age he has his interests and I end up being the chauffeur to get him back and forth to said interests – that is the how I talk to him, he is held captive in the car and has no choice to listen and grunt responses when I demand them in return.
Plus, as a woman I also have my own interests not to mention that I am married so I also spend time alone with my husband. My husband and I do actually go away on our own vacations (and so do all the other happily married couples we know). When we are on those vacations our rule is that we focus on US, not kids. We don’t talk about kids, about household stuff, parenting, etc. It is US time. Doesn’t mean I don’t love my son – does mean my entire world does not revolve around his existence. He will grow up a much healthier person because of that, but I digress.
Emma did talk about Henry in the EF. When she told Killy that SB is her home she talked about how Henry brought her to SB to bring her home not to break a curse. And they did already touch upon the implications of a Henry not being born if Emma wasn’t born back in
Regina’s house when they first discovered what Zelena was up to.I just think the whole finale was about Emma figuring out that SB and the people she loves are her home, and the way she did that was to go back and LIVE out the Fairy Tales herself instead of just reading them in a book. So knew everyone’s SB side and had HEARD of their fairy tale character sides but until she actually experienced them in the EF and understood that they were still people JUST LIKE HER who had the same kinds of feelings and challenges and experiences – she was NEVER going to feel that she belonged with them. So the focus HAD to be on her parents and it had to parallel something that she was currently experiencing. Snowing didn’t have a child yet so Henry really didn’t play a role in the fairy tale storyline that was needed to help Emma – there wasn’t a parallel there. I thought it was also meant to give closure to Emma finally accepting her parents for who they really are . . . her parents. As much as this life might not have been one that Emma would have ever imagined for herself – it IS actually HER life, she DOES have parents who love her and she finally realized that she loves them.
I honestly think they have established that Emma loves Henry and vice versa, and that Regina loves Henry and vice versa. I think the next thing that happens with Henry will be him getting his own arc of some kind. Keep in mind a lot of what they can do with Henry is limited by Jared’s age. He can only work so many hours a day and can only work between certain hours of the day due to his young age. Unfortunately a lot of OUaT is filmed late at night or very early in the morning, outside of when he can film. So he just isn’t able to be on the set all the time.
I don’t think the show is perfect either. I found Snowing naming the baby Neal . . . awkward, but only until I saw the look on Rumple’s face and then I thought it was a sweet gesture to HIM and something that made sense from Snow’s perspective. Knowing how Snow is about family I think she would be concerned that Rumple would feel cut off from the rest of his “family” after Bae died and it seemed like them naming the baby Neal was a way for them to, not only honor him, but also reach out to Rumple and let him know that they still very much consider him a part of their family. Yet . . . still it will be awkward every time they refer to Neal now.
As long as we don’t have Rumple making out with any other older and/or deeply disturbed or psychotic women on the show for at least a season, I can deal with just about anything though.
Okay, so I’ll bite and join in the conversation. Being one of the golden oldies in the group I actually believe that the way they have been handling Emma’s “growth” as a women is incredibly realistic.
As a women myself who was raised to be incredibly independent and well educated, and had incredibly well educated and independent friends (and has watched numerous equally independent, well educated women “grow-up” in Fortune 100 companies) I can tell you that the path that most women find themselves on tends to be the same.
We all head out into the job force feeling empowered as women like we don’t NEED a man because we have been taught that we can do it ALL on our own. And that if we get married, it will be our CHOICE – because we don’t need a man, we could be perfectly happy being a single woman for the rest of lives. Afterall, we are well-educated, have amazing hobbies, wonderful friends, are able to financially support ourselves – we are HAPPY and comfortable with who we are and we don’t need a man to validate us.
If we DO find a guy, we will be his EQUAL – it will be a perfect partnership from the beginning, none of this head over heels, goo-goo eye stuff for us – we are strong, independent, empowered women. Our men will respect and admire us for our accomplishments, they will be impressed with our careers and our financial success. Since we can do it all ourselves, we will be calm and in control when we may be interested in someone because we know we will never have to rely on a man to support us or take care of us. Not us, we are strong, modern women.
Then we meet “the one.” And everything we THOUGHT was supposed to happen, everything we thought we were supposed to be in control of . . . suddenly it doesn’t work that way. Oh, we are STILL strong, independent, well educated women. But suddenly, there is something about this guy that is more important than all of that. Suddenly, we actually LIKE that he insists on paying for our meals and holding the doors open. We like that WANTS to take care of us even though we know we don’t NEED him too. Suddenly that thought that we really never cared if we ever got married – now we care. And I have seen this a lot in the corporate world – some women actually start to panic and don’t understand what is happening. They planned their entire life based upon what modern society told them today’s young women are SUPPOSED to feel like when it comes to all of this – then they experience it and they don’t feel the way they thought they were supposed to. How do they admit to themselves let alone anyone else that, oh my, the thought of allowing a man to take care of them is actually appealing??? The disgrace!!! Don’t get me started on what happens when these same women who said they never wanted kids hit 35 and decide they want a baby!! Like I said – I see this all the time.
This doesn’t mean that as women when we find ourselves in love with a guy that we turn off our brain or become a different person or are suddenly acting “out of character.” It means we are growing up and changing. I think this is EXACTLY what the show has been doing with Emma. When we decide that having a guy “take care” of us sounds appealing that doesn’t mean we are suddenly incapable of taking care of ourselves. We can still work, bring in our own paycheck, etc – it just means that we LIKE the idea of having a MAN there to take care of us, watch over us, protect us. And, surprise, we like the idea of taking care of HIM too. To me Snowing is a perfect example of this. I think this is exactly what they have been showing us, in real time, with CS. So to say there wasn’t a real need for Killian in the EF really isn’t a valid argument to meat all. It would be like saying that if I ended up in a horribly dangerous neighborhood at night for some reason there wouldn’t be a need for me to have my husband with me. I know self-defense, I have pepper-spray, I have a cell phone cell. Does my husband have anything else that he can really offer besides the fact that he is a man and MY PARTNER that he can offer to help me in that situation? No. But is it absolutely appropriate for him to be there. Yes. In fact, if he knew I was heading out to someplace that could potentially be dangerous, as the man who loves me and considers himself to be my partner, it would be inappropriate for him NOT to go with me – even if he doesn’t have anything else to offer. That’s just how men protect the women they love.
A woman does NOT become a damsel in distress because she realizes that she enjoys having a man she loves there to take care of her. I’m sorry if the world today has tried to convince you of this ladies. It does not make you weak or dependent to WANT a man to be there to take care of you. It also doesn’t mean that you have to turn off your own personality or abilities when you realize you feel this way. Just like when Emma told Killian that SHE was the only one who saves herself when he came to “rescue” her from jail. Yes, Emma was happy to see that he came to rescue her but she was able to do it on her own. Her personality has NOT changed, but who she is is evolving – just like who we all are evolves as we get older.
I worked at a Fortune 100 company for years and LOVED it!! Loved the work, the fast pace, the stress, the power, etc. I continued to work there after my son was born. I was one of those women in college and in my 20’s that said I could NEVER be a stay at home mom – what a waste, how could a women EVER give up her independence and become dependent on a MAN, ruin her LIFE by doing that?? It would be so boring, etc. etc. After my son was born I started to struggle with working so hard so I gave up my management position when he was about 2 and then continued to work until he was 5. Then I realized I didn’t want to miss out on field trips, I wanted to be room mom, I wanted to pick him up from school, etc. So this Fortune 100 exec quit her job and became dependent on a MAN (ha ha, right) so she could stay home. Does that mean I am “out of character”? Does that mean I am a damsel in distress? If you answer yes to either of those questions you don’t know me very well. I am exactly the same person I always was – but life changed, and as my life changed I changed along with it – that’s how life works. And that’s how characters on a TV show should work too.
End rant.
Mommy bragging moment:
Everyone watch Good Morning America this Thursday!!!
My son is going to be on Good Morning America this Thursday!!
Yay!! It’s ABC – Once Upon a Time Land!! Disney is flying us to New York!!!
My son will be dancing on Good Morning America and will be interviewed by Michael Strahan!!!
I’m not sure exactly what time yet – we fly out tomorrow and then he does a very early morning rehearsal on Thursday before the show. I will post when I know what time he will be on.
So I know we have talked about the meaning of Killian’s name before but it really hit me hard the other day when I saw I post on tumblr about how one of the meanings of his name is church and what do you do in church? You go to church to worship, praise, and adore the Savior. But then it also hit me that the definition of “church” is “the house of The Lord” aka “the home of the Savior.”
That is so cool!!! Sometimes I’m a little slow on those things …
