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[adrotate group="5"]"He was a lot of things to me" "The only conclusion was love"
Yes, they are categorizing everyone’s stages of grief over Neal in chat. I wasn’t going to comment but it’s callous, as someone who recently as a year ago went through this in real life I know people don’t grieve like that. The stages are okay, but it’s not progressive. You don’t get to acceptance and move on. Really, the retconny flashbacks in 3×11 was a huge warning sign that canon and development is going out the window. This is really why I’m primarily a reader. Unless it’s an ongoing series, a book doesn’t change midway through on account of fandom. So glad that is true.
People grieve very differently. And a show can bring up all sorts of things in your real life. It’s part of why we watch shows. We want something that relates to us but that can bring us a new perspective or entertain us. Everyone has their own reasons. But to belittle someone’s feelings because they don’t feel the same as you or because you don’t understand, is cruel and insensitive. Neal’s death brings up so many feelings in me about how my own father’s death hit me. I’m not just going to get over it. I never got to say goodbye just like Henry didn’t. I know what this pain feels like. It’s all too real.
I used to read all the time too. Just got too busy (partly because I can’t put a book down once I start) and it’s hard to find time with kids running around. But maybe I just need to go back to books and find a way to make that work.
"We were happy."
"Because... it was born out of true love."Last night Matt and I were talking about, instead of havig LOVE Day Part 2, we have a memorial, but honestly…I don’t think it’s a good idea. Everyone but us is over it. Everyone but us is like, “yeah, sad. But it’s just a show and now we can move on to other things.” No one else is offended at the terrible way they ended this character
"He was a lot of things to me" "The only conclusion was love"And the first time I heard about ONCE, I thought : “great! a show about fairy tales! maybe it’ll be cheery and full of hope!” And yeah…
Sorry, I really need to shut up, I’m just awefully mad 😡
Yes, they are categorizing everyone’s stages of grief over Neal in chat. I wasn’t going to comment but it’s callous, as someone who recently as a year ago went through this in real life I know people don’t grieve like that. The stages are okay, but it’s not progressive. You don’t get to acceptance and move on
I’m so offended by that I can’t even function. My grief and pain are not for you to analyze. My dad died almost 7 yrs ago in July. There is none of time table acceptance crap. Don’t ever try to tell me that I’ll get over it.
It’s not something that you can get over. You just learn to live with it.
"We were happy."
"Because... it was born out of true love."
"He was a lot of things to me" "The only conclusion was love"Oh and can I add, just because I am upset over a character death, it doesn’t mean that my logical functioning reasoning brain doesn’t work and that I am no longer an open-minded person. I can still think and reason, thank you.
"We were happy."
"Because... it was born out of true love."First of all, and mostly, primarily – HUGE hugs RG. I know I am a loudmouthed newbie, but I can read your pain in every post and it is breaking my heart. Please please know that despite everything you are feeling right now, who you are and what you feel is completely valid. From reading the last year of thread, I know what an awesome gal you are, and giant hugs. (This, too, for everyone else for whom this goes far beyond a TV show. Hugs. Just hugs.)
Join me with the crew who 1) hardly slept last night, 2) cried herself to sleep and 3) feels immensely embarrassed that she is this distraught over a TV show. I did not bawl like this when my RL ship went through massive crisis… it’s been years and I’ve never really cried. But the manner in which all of this was done has utterly gutted me. I had to cut out of work an hour early… held it together for 4 hours but was out of must-do tasks and I just needed to go. Needed to come commiserate with my SF family. How can I be so attached to people I’ve only cyber-known for two weeks? I just needed to be in understanding company, who gets the effect this has had on me.
That said… I am actually on team Phee here. There is a little too much “off” here. I have a crack theory, actually, I’ll post it later. But even as I sit here fighting back tears, I am not ready to concede defeat. I don’t think this is over.
Cause this story needs some mending & a better happy ending...
Bless you Slurpeez.
I’ll make sure to bring it all up
That’s cool. Feel free to adapt the words however you want. I don’t especially care to take credit for it, but feel free to say you got it from the SF thread. It’s pretty much just a summary of lots of things most of us have been saying.
"That’s how you know you’ve really got a home. When you leave it, there’s this feeling that you can’t shake. You just miss it." Neal Cassidy
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